Thank you to all who reached out to me regarding my Thanksgiving post. With more holidays coming (and fast!), perhaps I can explain a little more how mediation can help prior to, during, or post-divorce. I am not a therapist, nor can I fix your marriage, but I can help, from a neutral perspective, to address immediate and important concerns. The holidays is an example, but just about anything can be solved in mediation.
Mediation is not only used as a big picture the to divorce, it is often used to address smaller, specific challenges that help us to keep the eye on the ball. These urgent and crucial concerns actually can be the big picture and we can’t move towards anything unless this is addressed and agreed to. No matter how trivial one of you may think something is, if it's important to the other (and to the kids), let’s deal with that now.
I am often asked to help with where the kids go for the holidays and no greater disagreements come than around Christmas. When you were married, you had a plan and the kids were in tow, but now that you aren’t together, where do the kids go? This is one of the many ways that mediation can help. I have worked with countless couples and have helped amicably resolve these challenges many times. What you decided when they were 10 and 8 years old may not work anymore. It doesn't mean that it has to be carved in stone just because it was in your agreement. Mediation works post-divorce, too. Instead of arguing that it’s simply what the agreement says, maybe you can agree to change some things and maybe even get some of the things you wanted in return. In mediation we come up with an immediate plan, though maybe not perfect, that allows you to make decisions that work. Sometimes we have to let go of ego or traditions in order to do what is best for the family….the newly defined family.
You can and will make co- parenting work, even during the holidays. If you need help, I am here. Schedule a free consultation by emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org and you’ll see what I mean. Own your outcome!
Scott W. Orr
A dynamic, seasoned, and innovative legal professional with broad and in-depth experience as a lawyer and corporate legal officer/executive. Skilled mediator with recognized ability to identify, Learn more